HARASSMENT!

This is a critical subject for me! I will be writing about my experience with this type of assault. Like always, I will not be disclosing the names of locations or people due to legal reasons. Whether you believe it or not, I don't care. I need to share this with those that have experienced a similar situation. Foremost, I know how it feels to be scared of speaking up because of the lack of evidence for this type of crime. The working environment is supposed to be safe and harassment-free, but I guess it depends on who you know and what position they have. So, everybody in my workplace knew I prefer women. That's something I am very open and proud of, but I guess they didn't quite grasp that idea in their head so multiple times they approached me from behind grabbed me and many time's management addressed them, but that didn't matter, nothing was done. And don't think I didn't try to do something I did, and it resulted in retribution from their close friends in higher positions. This experience is not subject to one company, I guess joking around trying to keep the atmosphere in peace confuses the mentality of a male species. No offense, I know, not all men are the same. And this doesn't only happen with men, women can also fall into the same behavior. Furthermore, I am the type of employee that doesn't like socializing with other employees. I believe in keeping everything professional. There were only two occasions that I felt obligated to give a coworker a ride home, but that's it. I believe that socializing too much with coworkers causes problems, especially if you are promoted to a higher position. So, I believe that my work ethic was not approved and was strongly criticized. Why do I say this because when people don't know anything about you, they can't gossip right? But when you start seeing coworkers drive around your private residence, you know something is wrong because I never invited any of my coworkers to my residence or was friends to that extent with anyone. The strangest thing is this particular coworker was previously fired. How did they manage to get my address? "Not only that" then current employees started making comments about locations where I had been insinuating that they knew my every move. I was going through so many things at that time, I was trying to stay focused on what mattered most. I had a close friend at the time, so I thought! That made an interesting comment after I mentioned I saw someone from work around the location. She replied, "It is illegal for a man to privately investigate someone's past or present life". What she meant by that I don't know, she did not explain. After all of this, that was going on financially. I was also struggling, so I ended up moving to a different location. But I believe this made things worse, The location where I had moved was close to the residence of the person who violated me years ago. To my surprise one day I was at the neighborhood Food 4 Less when I lifted my head up and there he was in front of me in the same line I grabbed the car and I remembered I just left everything there and walked out as fast as I could. I was so scared I went to a psychiatric facility close to the area. I wanted to avoid speaking I only told them I feel suicidal I wanted to be admitted I wanted to avoid being out in public I didn't want to go back home, I was terrified. Being face to face was like reliving the moment, and I know that those that have experienced some kind of assault will understand my reaction. After that day, other things started happening. My car started being vandalized by putting nails on my tires every week, I had a flat tire then I switched cars and the same thing started again. I did contact the police, but they couldn't do anything but file a report. Then the situation escalated from flat tires to different liquids thrown on my windows and smashing headlights. I lost count of how many times I moved until I had to move back to my family's home after moving there a couple of days had passed, and I thought I was finally going to be in peace until one night I remember exiting the freeway and going to the nearest gas station where a mysterious black SUV with a heavyweight female screaming out of her driver's seat looking straight at me speaking straight at me telling me "I will never leave you alone you ruined her life" when I tried to get close to her to get a better look at her, she steps on the gas and exit the gas station. This just stunned me. I didn't know what to make of it. I just got more scared. Subsequently, I had an awful accident and I don't remember anything. Why am I writing about it now? Because if I would've known what I know now, I would've proceeded to seek justice no matter what.

So, my message for those that are or have been going through a similar situation is "don't be afraid" find the courage to speak up and bring those people to justice. Don't make the same mistake I made because you will regret it like I have all these years.

-jb1writes

"Stick to the truth with conviction"