Submitted Date 11/28/2018

Living with a victim mentality never helps. We’ve all been through hard times and hurt. Our personal situations always seems justifiable. Sometimes it is. Still, at the end of the day what really matters is what we do about it. Dwelling and feeling bad about ourselves won’t fix anything or save us. It’ll only make things worse.

Taking things for granted and feeling entitled won’t help either. It's better to think no one owes us anything. We don't deserve anything special because we went through a hard time, it happens to everyone. It’s true some people aren’t as blessed as others, but it’s important to try our best considering the situation we’re in. Sitting around and waiting for someone to save us won't work. But as long as there’s hope, there’s a chance to move on.

Rough moments come around to make us stronger. That’s life. What matters is how we react when things get hard or don't turn out the way we want. There's a lot to learn in pushing through the storm, getting beat down and getting back up again.

Even though things aren’t always easy, they can turn out great in the end. There’s always room for change and good things are possible. It all depends on if we complain about how hard it is or we choose to move forward. What are you going to do? There’s enough negativity out there, let’s spread some hope to the world. 


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  • Mary Jaimes-Serrano 5 years, 3 months ago

    Tomas, this is a great view. I completely agree with you. We all have our ups and downs but in the end, life is what you make of it. Very nice, thank you for sharing. On a side note, how is Argentina? Are you there for personal or professional reasons? Have a great week.

    • Tomas Chough 5 years, 3 months ago

      Thanks for commenting Mary! Argentina is great! My parents decided to move here for personal and professional reasons. But it's been around 14 years now so I'm pretty comfortable. I do miss the States but I go visit pretty often. Who knows, maybe I'll move back someday... You have a great week too!

  • Rick Doble 5 years, 2 months ago

    This is from a haiku-like poem I wrote: Your attitude and how you spend your time and your thoughts is who you are

    • Tomas Chough 5 years, 2 months ago

      I totally agree! Thanks for reading Rick!

  • Carrie VanHoose 5 years, 2 months ago

    Thanks for a glimpse of who you are and how you feel about being responsible for our own lives. I'd love to collaborate with you on this piece. I noticed a few edits and rewording that could help the flow. This is a great topic more people need to learn about and a great start to a bigger project about how not to be a victim of life. Great job!

    • Tomas Chough 5 years, 1 month ago

      Sorry, I just saw this! I'd be thrilled for you to collaborate! There are always things to add or take out in order to improve the content. I'm open to any new ideas. Thanks a lot Carrie!

  • Julia Bailey 5 years, 1 month ago

    This is a great view of things! I think the things you have written are wise

  • Darlene Hayder 5 years, 1 month ago

    Spot on! Many people put themselves in their own prisons of victim mentality. You're so right about needing to see past it and move on!

    • Tomas Chough 5 years, 1 month ago

      Thank you Darlene! Glad you agree :)